If a kid that’s bi is watching TV and doesn’t really see anyone that identifies as bi or queer that is in a happy, functioning relationship, that has a good job, that lives past a 3-episode guest star arc — or maybe the bi character is hypersexualized or possibly a villain, [which] happens a lot — what does that mean for a 12, 13-year-old watching television and consuming media, and thinking, ‘Well who am I then? I guess I’m not this thing because I’m not a villain, I don’t want to be hypersexualized, I want what everybody wants, to live happy and well.
Your orientation is not measured by how many people you’ve kissed, dated or had sex with. It doesn’t matter what gender you’re attracted to most. What does define your orientation, is how YOU feel about it. Don’t compare yourself to others: remember, only you can know how your bi experience is.
A-spec has never been used for autism. It’s always meant aro and ace spectrums. I’m not trying to start drama or anything, but there have been multiple posts about it where others with autism have never heard of a-spec being used for autism and neither have their doctors. Research brings nothing up either. I just wanted to clarify, I apologize if this seems rude or anything, that’s not my intention.
ahh i see. thanks for clarifying it then. i suppose i’ll consider this topic closed then since we’re a bi blog, and we’re not an ace blog
I'm going on a secret date with a girl and ahhhhhhhhbhhhhhhhhhhh! She lives outta town so I don't think anyone will spot me and if they do I'll say she's a friend or something. I'm so excited and I got nobody to tell so ahhhhh hi I'm bi bye
GOOD LUCK!! have a gay day
Hullo there friendo, id like to ask, am I okay to be asexual and bi(romantic)? Its where I feel most comfortable but I see loads of different posts classing them as different things so can I be both? I’m scared people are gonna judge me for being picky. Also I learnt of biphobia and now I’m really scared of ever going to pride or revealing my sexuality (especially as both ace and bi) and I don’t know what to do 🙁
yeah it’s definitely okay! and you don’t ever have to come out until you feel safe enough to do so <3
sex repulse anon, so is there a term for that or just bi
just bi? i think?
Hi! I came to check out the blog, & I noticed you use ace-spec instead of a-spec like other blogs. I'd just like to say thank you! I respect the asexual community, but it irked me as an autistic person that part of the community adopted a-spec for asexual. It caused lots of confusion, so thank you for using the correct term! If you knew or not!
ye, as an ace bi person the same thing kinda annoys me
hi! very sorry, im questioning if im bi or pan? i was checking the FAQ but non of the links are working? uh! if you possibly have a working link or the info on hand could you point me in the right direction?
we’re currently working on rebuilding the FAQ page, but we’ve answered a bunch of asks on differences b/w bisexuality and pansexuality and you can check those out!
Don’t forget that sexual/romantic orientation and gender identity can be different for everyone and that no two people experience being bi (for example) the same way. Don’t worry too much about fitting or not fitting a stereotype: just listen to how your experience is like, and you’re doing it right.
like.. the moment i realised i (cis girl) was bi was when i saw this person and i couldnt tell if they were a guy or a girl and then they stood up and it was a girl and i found her pretty and my brain instantly just went "ur bi honey…" and its just like, uh ok?? so theres that now brain, i mean at least i know what i am but now i have to deal with all this external and internal biphobia and homophobia yikes
dealing w/ internalised biphobia/homophobia can only really be resolved by talking to other bi folks/gay folks. that’s how i kinda got over mine. good luck tho!