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sapphicrevan replied to your post

“Is it common for bi women to feel this internal sense of androgyny…”

hi where does this idea come from that tomcat = androgynous and stag = masculine, that’s completely ignoring how these terms were coined. i am friends with the person who coined tomcat and i was one of the first people on this website who adopted it as a self-identifier. It was literally always meant to describe any form of gender non-conformity, masculinity and un-femininity in bi women who feel like their gender (presentation) is directly connected to their bisexuality. 

stag was coined entirely disconnected from that to describe broadly the same thing. there is no scale between tomcat and stag, they have different origins but apply to the same concept. i prefer tomcat so that’s what i use but not because i am more feminine than a stag lol

like tomcat is literally a MALE cat, come on 

(i’m referring to anon, not you, buck!) 

hey no it’s cool to bring up since I’m not sure where this split in definition came from, I’ve seen a bunch of people seemingly unrelated to each other ID as tomcat to mean more masculine-androgynous. while not accurate to the origin of the word, I thought it was interesting that some bi women seemed to independently identify with it as a description for the more blended/shifting way they experience their gender nonconformity.

i think it might be oversimplifying it to say, even by this other definition, “tomcat is androgynous, right between stag and doe”, because that’s not the impression I got off of people who used it that way, but I’m having trouble putting it to words rn. it’s like… masculine genderfluidity.