I've tried to come out to my mom a couple of times, but each time I've taken it back because she's reacted so badly. The first time she lamented about how she must have went wrong raising me, and the the next time she insisted that I couldn't be bi because she "knows better." I want her to accept me, but I feel I must prove my bi-ness to her for that to happen. And not to mention that each time she rejects me, I begin to wonder if she's right and I really don't know myself. What should I do?
The thing with *most* homophobes/biphobes is, no amount of proof, evidence or valid arguments can change their minds. Yes, there are people that can change, but that usually comes with time.
In other words, you can’t “prove” your bi-ness to her, because her problem with you sexuality isn’t about that.
I don’t want to say there’s no hope for your mom to change her opinion, because there are plenty of people that have opened their hearts and changed their perspective. I just want you to know her problem isn’t your fault, and there’s nothing you can do to change it, neither have you created it.
I know how shitty that is, and how powerless you must feel. The only thing I can think of is communication – talk to her, express how much she’s hurting you, educate her about sexual orientation and bisexuality…
I hope she changes her mind and sees you for the amazing person you are. Good luck, sending good vibes your way <3