Monosexuals, please stop writing songs about b…

Monosexuals, please stop writing songs about bi people:

As far as I can tell, people who aren’t bi have only even written two types of songs about bi people;

  1. “My partner (usually girlfriends because bi men barely exist in mainstream consciousness) is bi, it’s so hot, we’re gonna have a threesome”
  2. “The person I like/have been flirting with got a boy/girlfriend (which ever would make them in a “straight passing” relationship) instead of being with me, so they must be a fake gay”

Currently, #LiamPayneIsOverParty is trending on Twitter because of the biphobic song on his new album, LP1. “Both Ways” is supposedly a song about Payne’s bisexual girlfriend…

Payne is not the first straight man to use the fetishizesation of bi women as a catchy hook in his music. Other examples include the Weekend’s “Lost in the Fire” & Tinie Tempah’s “Miami to Ibiza”. These songs and the many others like them perpetuate the dangerous stereotype of bi women as hypersexual, sex toys for straight couples, or down for anything…  

Bi people also have to deal with the second type of invalidating songs, often from gay or lesbian artists (I’ve personally come across a lot more from lesbians than gay men). Examples include GRLWood’s “Bisexual”, Hayley Kiyoko’s “Curious”, and Tegan and Sarah’s “Boyfriend”…

All of these songs rely on the biphobic stereotypes that bi women are just straight women looking for a bit of adventure, unwilling to leave their boyfriends, cheaters, and just all-round bad or unreliable partners…

While these songs aren’t as damaging as those written by straight men, mainly because queer artists will never been given as much mainstream attention or clout, they do contribute to the “bad partner” narrative that makes bi people more vulnerable to jealousy-based abuse and to the double discrimination that causes bi people to have worse mental health outcomes than gay men or lesbians…

when female musicians such as Demi Lavato, Rita Ora, or Ariana Grande who have up until now been assumed straight release songs about their multigender attraction, they are often accused of queerbaiting or ‘doing it for attention’ because bi people face a higher burden of proof when it comes to our queer credentials than other members of the LGBT community…

So monosexuals, it’s time to stop writing songs about us. You’ve done a pretty terrible job so far…