An appreciation post for all bisexuals that fit some sort of a bi stereotype. Polyamorous? Prefer the opossite gender? Like sex? Wonderful! We’re lucky to have you in the community, and you’re not a “bad bisexual” for staying true to who you are.
I encourage you to write what stereotype you fit, if you fit any, and let’s celebrate it. (Do this in tags, replies or as a reblog, up to you.)
Okay so I’m a teenage girl bi but I’ve never had a hardcore crush on a girl before? Like I’ve found them attractive and I can picture myself dating a girl and all that but I’ve never been like in love with another girl irl? Does that make me straight or like a fake bi because I’m confused :/
These questions are always so hard to answer, because we can’t see into your head. We don’t know how you feel nor who you experience attraction towards.
The bottom line always is – Your path is unique and what’s more, valid, even if it doesn’t align with other people’s paths. Especially because it doesn’t.
First off, there’s no such thing as a “fake bi”. (Unless, of course, you’re literally faking being bisexual on purpose.) If you identify as bi and then later realize another label fits you better, that doesn’t mean you were a “fake bi”. That just means you’re exploring your sexuality and have come to a different conclusion than you initially have.
Second, I can’t tell you if what you experience towards women is attraction or just an appreciation for their beauty. I’m not you.
However, from what you’ve described, it sounds like you’re bi. The fact you’ve never had a hardcore girl crush doesn’t mean anything. Your experience and romantic/sexual history doesn’t define your sexuality.
In conclusion, you’re probably bi, but the only person that can truly determine that is yourself. Good luck. x
-mod Annie 😸
so my therapist thinks my attraction to women is only to strong and powerful women, basically he thinks I like the fact that they're badass women and as a woman myself that empowers me, do you think that could be? I know for sure that there's at least one girl I just can't stop thinking about kissing, and sometimes I really like to just look at beautiful women, would that be confirmation of me being bi?
It sounds to me like you need to find a new therapist, one that doesn’t erase people’s sexualities.You clearly know the truth, act on it.
I’m almost 100% sure I’m bi but I feel like I don’t act bi enough? I know that people aren’t stereotypes and also I don’t know how bi people act nor do I know any bi people so I don’t exactly have anything to compare myself to. I feel like when someone is not straight I can usually tell but with myself I feel like people can’t tell and that makes me feel like I’m not really bi. What do I do and how do I stop feeling like this?
Well, bi people act like…normal people?
This isn’t a cult, we don’t have matching hats or a secret handshake (although both of those sound cool maybe we should get on that) that make us “act bi enough.”
There’s no quota you have to meet to be “bi enough”. Do you find yourself attracted to a variety of people of different genders? Congratulations, welcome to the bi family!
I know where you’re coming from, I’ve had these thoughts myself, sometimes even still have, but trust me – there’s no such thing as being bi “enough”. There’s just being bi.
I think I'm bisexual but I can't tell if my crushes on girls are actually crushes. Is it normal for straight people to think a girl is really really pretty and then look through her instagram to find photos of her? I know I do that with guys too. With my irl girl crushes I got really excited whenever they touched me and I thought about kissing them when they were close so does this mean I had a crush or was just curious?
Honey, you’re super bi, welcome to the community.
I’ve been with my boyfriend for just over two years now and we’ve both known I’m bisexual ever since we dated but recently I can’t help but think about being with another woman? I think it’s because I’ve never had any experience with women before and I suppose I’m just curious about it? But I feel like a cheater for even thinking about this bc i genuinely do love my boyfriend and I feel like he would be really hurt if I told him this bc I already know I’m into women so why even think about it?
I’m the same. I’ve been with my boyfriend for 3 years now and I’ve never been with anyone before him. I figured out my sexuality while being with him and thus had no chance to experiment. I know exactly how you feel.
First off, you’re not a cheater nor a bad person for thinking about being with women. You’re attracted to women, of course you’re gonna want to have that experience.
I don’t know your boyfriend personally, but mine understood. I think as long as you’re clear they’re just thoughts, he’ll be okay.
Then you could have a discussion about possibly having an open realtionship for a while so that you could explore? If that’s something you’d be into?
Anyway, you didn’t really have a question, so I’m not sure what else to say, but reading this reminded me of my situation so much I wanted to answer and let you know you’re not alone and that your thoughts are completely okay and normal.
I mean women are SO BEAUTIFUL how could you not want to be with them, you know?
-mod Annie (I gotta start signing off again, man)
“Now Colin, you’ve always been seen as a romantic lead to the ladies. How did you apply this to a gay context? Was it difficult for you? How did you-”
Not just that he said it, but that he seemed really angry that he had to.
We don’t deserve him.