I recently came out as bi, only to a close friend who is bi and my cousin who is also bi. I have never been in a relationship with anyone bc the people in my life made me not really trust people. I don’t know if I want to come out to anyone else bc a lot of my family is homophobic. My mom is someone who thinks bi people aren’t gay enough but doesn’t have a problem with gays. I guess my question is, am I really bi even though I have never been with anyone? But I can’t help my feelings…
you’re still bisexual even if you’ve been with;
-only one gender
-two or more genders
-no one at all
Good vibes! I followed your advice from a few months ago and told my boyfriend of 7 years that I'm also attracted to girls. He was 100% okay with it, like he didn't even sound surprised or curious or anything, just very natural and I felt safe. Now I have to work on my internalized biphobia, but it's so good to have him by my side while doing it and not feeling like I have to hide a part of me from anyone anymore ♡ thank you SO much. You have no idea how important your blog is!
<3!! i’m so happy to hear that!
Am I bi if I feel sexually attracted to two genders but one WAY more so than the other, and can't feel romantically attracted to my own gender because of internalized biphobia? Is this internalized biphobia that keeps me from loving another woman something I can work on?
you’re still bi! some bi folks have a 99% attraction to one gender and a 1% attraction to the other, they’re still bisexual though
(1/2) Hi there! So I read the faq links about internalized biphobia and I didn’t see anything quite like what I’m experiencing so I’ll give it a shot… I think I’ve mostly come to terms with the fact that I’m bisexual, and I am able to recognize it as a valid sexuality finally, but I still feel sort of icky about it? Like I just don’t feel like my attraction to the same gender is as pure and lovely as my attraction to the opposite gender.
(2/2) I know deep down that that’s not true, but every time I even come close to accepting myself and possibly coming out, I get disgusted at myself for these attractions. I’m sure this is probably because of the way I was raised to think about LGBTQ+ relationships, but even with that acknowledgement I can’t get these thoughts out of my head. Any advice?
hey! our FAQ links are quite a mess rn and we’re still working on them. and internalised biphobia develops in a multitude of different ways that may not be the “same.” and the way i experienced internalised biphobia when i was figuring things out sounds very similar to what you’re experiencing
Can a femme date another femme or is it just weird? :/
i mean yes ofc
i just wanted to tell this to someone and you are so nice and this blog is awesome! yay to bisexuals all around the world
<33 bisexuals are freaking awesome regardless who we are
I'm female and have a male fiance. I love him and we're getting married. I like him more than any girl in the world. Am I still bi?
definitely, you’re still bi even if you’re in a committed relationship
Is it like weird to only see yourself going into a relationship with a girl but still like flirting with guys?
oh that’s definitely fine. a few years ago i could only see myself w/ girls but i’d flirt extensively with cute boys
So, I’m AFAB nonbinary and bi, with an attraction to girls and boys. Whenever I have a crush or just think someone’s really gorgeous looking, I say I’m gay, because I’m technically not a wlw or mlm and I’m technically not hetero. Is this okay for me to do?
i think that’s upto you to decide tbh? like do you feel comfortable
Hi, what are some good ways to deal with coming out? I just came out to my mom last night and quite honestly, I don't feel better at all. I feel ashamed (I hate internalized biphobia), and sad. Any tips for dealing with these emotions?
that’s okay. sometimes it takes a little while for things to settle down. i’d recommend talking to other bi folks and trying to work your way through how you’re feeling and understand it’s not logical