If you’re questioning, whether that is wondering if you might be bisexual or if you think the bisexual label doesn’t fit you after all, please remember that there’s nothing to be ashamed of. It’s okay to change labels, it’s okay to try out labels temporarily and see how you feel, and it’s absolutely not harming anyone. Figuring out who you are is a journey and nobody expects you to have it all figured out at once.
As the year 2017 comes to a close, I’d like to thank all of you for being here on behalf of the team. Think about all the things that happen in a year: some things have been bad, but try to look back at all the positive things that have happened in the world, and to you, this year. It might be hard to see the small progresses you make as a person, but progress is progress and I’m so proud of you all for surviving this year. Imagine all the ways you can grow as a person in the coming year! We look forward to having you here with us. Thank you for being you, you beautiful human beings.
Here’s another reminder that you’re not a less valid bisexual if you:
– have a preference for a different gender than your own
– only choose to act on attraction towards another gender than your own, whatever the reasons may be
– have a crush on/have a partner of a different gender than yours
You ARE ‘gay enough’. You AREN’T “just straight after all”, and you certainly AREN’T damaging other bisexuals. Your love is yours, you are bisexual, and that means you’re allowed to not only be proud of your same-gender attraction!
Shoutout to all my fellow LGBTQ+ folks that have to deal with their relatives’ homophobia/biphobia/transphobia etc. around the holidays. Hang in there and always remember – People that don’t accept you the way you are don’t matter. Family or not. I’m sending positive vibes your way and I believe you can get through this.
I know this is a bi positivity blog, but this time of year can be hard for everyone. Let’s end this year on a supportive note. Merry christmas and happy holidays!
Your orientation is not measured by how many people you’ve kissed, dated or had sex with. It doesn’t matter what gender you’re attracted to most. What does define your orientation, is how YOU feel about it. Don’t compare yourself to others: remember, only you can know how your bi experience is.
Don’t forget that sexual/romantic orientation and gender identity can be different for everyone and that no two people experience being bi (for example) the same way. Don’t worry too much about fitting or not fitting a stereotype: just listen to how your experience is like, and you’re doing it right.
Being attracted to the same gender as yourself does not mean it’s the only valid part of your identity. A lot of biphobic thoughts around bisexuality make it seem as such, but please remember that ALL parts of your orientation is okay. You’re bi, and you’re allowed to be. You’re allowed to love whoever.
Don’t let anyone or anything make you think that being bi is something less worthy of being proud of than any other orientation. It’s not necessarily ‘easier’ to be bisexual than homosexual, for example. Bi people face much of the same, and also a very different, kind of discrimination, and you have all the reason to be proud of who you are.
I’ve seen quite a few posts lately in blogs like this about friends not being supportive of people after they’ve come out as bi.
After I came out to one of my friends she gave this button and said, “Have a bi-bee. It’s a really subtle way of being out. The people who know what the colours mean will get it, everyone else will think it’s just a pretty bee.”
Point is, your real friends will support you and possibly give you adorable badges. If your “friends” don’t support you when you come out, question you, ask you to prove your bi-ness, act biphobic in other ways, they aren’t really your friends.
Ditch the biphobes, they’re not worth your fabulous self, they don’t deserve you. Find a bi-bee friend, they’re out there.
Bi people of colour aren’t less bi because they don’t fit into a stereotypical white, light and skinny image people have of bi people! We come in all colours and ethnicities, and your heritage doesn’t make you any less bi.