Category: bisexual women

A female-id’ing person kissing another female-id’ing person doesn’t ALWAYS mean one (or even both) of them self-identifies as Lesbian … Bisexual+ People exist! 

Lesbian Women ❤️ Bi+ Women
Bi+ Women 💜 Lesbian Women
Bi+ Women 💙 other Bi+ Women … it’s all good!

Bisexuality is the attraction to more than one Gender, or to Genders similar to- and different from- one’s own.

It includes people of ALL Genders & Gender Presentations including but not limited to: Cis Intersex, Genderfluid, Genderqueer, Nonbinary, Trans and so many more.

Bisexual+, Biromantic+ (Bi+ or BiPlus for short) is the commonly used “shorthand” for the entire Non-Monosexual or otherwise MSpec (Multiple Gender Attraction Spectrum) Community including but not limited to: Bisexual/Biromantic, Ambisexual, Flexisexual, Fluid, Heteroflexible/Homoflexible, Multisexual, No Labels, Omnisexual, Pansexual, Plurisexual, PoMoSexual, Polysexual, Same-gender Loving (SGL), Sapiosexual, Queer-identified, and so many more.

So Please remember to ALWAYS include the “B” in LGBTQ+

grungypunxz:

If your response to the fact that bi women experience more relationship abuse than lesbians is “thats what they get for dating men” i will come to your house and take your kneecaps

What do you all think of the bi lesbian term/ identity?

I think it’s great that there’s people who have found a way to describe their sexuality in a way that feels right and precise to them and I don’t think it is anyone’s business to debate, invalidate or police that.

In other words: if someone wants to call themselves a bi lesbian then they are a bi lesbian.

There’s plenty of reasons why someone might choose to use both labels and they don’t owe anyone an explanation as to why they identify that way. Their existence doesn’t take anything away from people who
exclusively identify as lesbian OR bisexual.

There’s literally no harm done, despite what some scaremongering gatekeepers (and biphobes) might be saying.

See also this post; and that post.

Maddie

Monosexuals, please stop writing songs about bi people:

As far as I can tell, people who aren’t bi have only even written two types of songs about bi people;

  1. “My partner (usually girlfriends because bi men barely exist in mainstream consciousness) is bi, it’s so hot, we’re gonna have a threesome”
  2. “The person I like/have been flirting with got a boy/girlfriend (which ever would make them in a “straight passing” relationship) instead of being with me, so they must be a fake gay”

Currently, #LiamPayneIsOverParty is trending on Twitter because of the biphobic song on his new album, LP1. “Both Ways” is supposedly a song about Payne’s bisexual girlfriend…

Payne is not the first straight man to use the fetishizesation of bi women as a catchy hook in his music. Other examples include the Weekend’s “Lost in the Fire” & Tinie Tempah’s “Miami to Ibiza”. These songs and the many others like them perpetuate the dangerous stereotype of bi women as hypersexual, sex toys for straight couples, or down for anything…  

Bi people also have to deal with the second type of invalidating songs, often from gay or lesbian artists (I’ve personally come across a lot more from lesbians than gay men). Examples include GRLWood’s “Bisexual”, Hayley Kiyoko’s “Curious”, and Tegan and Sarah’s “Boyfriend”…

All of these songs rely on the biphobic stereotypes that bi women are just straight women looking for a bit of adventure, unwilling to leave their boyfriends, cheaters, and just all-round bad or unreliable partners…

While these songs aren’t as damaging as those written by straight men, mainly because queer artists will never been given as much mainstream attention or clout, they do contribute to the “bad partner” narrative that makes bi people more vulnerable to jealousy-based abuse and to the double discrimination that causes bi people to have worse mental health outcomes than gay men or lesbians…

when female musicians such as Demi Lavato, Rita Ora, or Ariana Grande who have up until now been assumed straight release songs about their multigender attraction, they are often accused of queerbaiting or ‘doing it for attention’ because bi people face a higher burden of proof when it comes to our queer credentials than other members of the LGBT community…

So monosexuals, it’s time to stop writing songs about us. You’ve done a pretty terrible job so far…

Myths About Bisexual People Aren’t Just Wrong — They’re Dangerous:

I always knew that women are at a higher risk of sexual assault and relationship violence … But what I didn’t know is, we are more vulnerable to violence depending on our sexual orientation. And bisexual women are particularly at risk…

Nicole Johnson a psychology professor at Lehigh University was researching sexual violence victimization when she noticed a trend: bisexual women experience more harm … she argues that three factors make bi women more likely to be abused. 

  1. First, cultural stereotypes portray bisexual women as constantly sexually available, regardless of our consent.
  2. Second, high rates of substance use across the LGBTQ community leave us vulnerable to violence.
  3. Finally, biphobic harassment—being targeted especially for our identities—ups our risk.“

“These disparities are the result of having to exist in hostile and toxic social environments,” says Robyn Ochs “They’re not a result of our identities” too often, people blame bi identity for what is, in reality, preconceived notions about bisexual people that promote society-wide discrimination. This focus on discrimination is called the minority stress model “Living under stress is exhausting,” says Ochs. “It’s not good for our health.”

One stressor that bi women face, as Johnson found, is harmful stereotypes about our sexuality It’s a reality faced by bisexual women in American culture, and it’s called hypersexualization “People often mistake someone coming out as bisexual as a sexual invitation,” says Ochs…

miraisfandomtrash:
ok so i love steven’s universe for a lot of reasons, but I just noticed…

miraisfandomtrash:

ok so i love steven’s universe for a lot of reasons, but I just noticed something:

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everyone who watches the show knows that Rose is seen as beautiful, and elegant and likely the most attractive character in the show.  

But then we also see stuff like:

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Mayor Dewy thinking Pearl is beautiful, and even calling her “hot”

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Jamie thinking Garnet is literally the most beautiful thing he’s ever seen.

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Stevonie, a non-binary but mostly female appearing character, being seen as very attractive by multiple other characters, and Sadie finding her attractive instead of being catty. 

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Then we have these two. Saphire is a tiny blue one eyed ice smurf and is also seen as beautiful. Ruby is a tiny red angry square with almost no traditionally female characteristics and is also seen as attractive enough to find true love. 

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Vedalia even says Greg is hot. A+ body positivity despite gender and body type. 

What I haven’t seen EVER in Steven’s Universe though is any of the characters being portrayed as ugly or physically unappealing to anyone. Fat characters get body positivity, skinny characters get body positivity, curvy characters get body positivity, tiny characters get body positivity. You know what else? No two characters have the same body type just like real life. It teaches you that there are endless different ways to look and still be beautiful. 

No one gets left out. No one gets called ugly. The only “bad” characters arn’t bad because of the way they look, but the way they act. Fat characters are never seen as ugly because they are fat. 

This is so important for little kids to see. 

And I know the counter argument to children being taught that it’s “ok” to be fat will always be “well being fat is unhealthy and they should feel bad about being fat so that they will work on loosing weight”. But guess what, that kind of thing leads to eating disorders, and kills children’s self esteem, and makes them hate their bodies. Some people do need to loose weight if it actually does affect their health but a lot of the time they really don’t, or they can’t for whatever reason. Some people feel more comfortable being on the heavier side. But even if you are concerned for a person’s health, the stress and depression that comes along with having a poor image of yourself is much more unhealthy and limiting than a little belly fat. 

 It also shows you that the Gems choose their appearance, which is also supper important. Pearl, and Lapis choose to be skinny, Amethyst and Rose choose to be fat, Garnet chooses to be a giant curvy square, and all of those things are completely accepted and ok. 

Love yourself. 

bifeministagenda:The entire concept of “fake college bi girls” or somebody being “bisexual until…

biandboujeee:

I am seeking participants for a research study on the challenges (biphobia in particular) that bi+ women experience while participating in LGBTQ activism on campus. 

Anyone who… 

  1. identifies as a woman to some degree who also experiences attraction to more than one gender (including but not limited to: bisexual, pansexual, polysexual, queer, fluid),
  2. is a current undergraduate student (or recent graduate) who is (or has been) involved in at least one LGBTQ student organization on campus, 
  3. and is interested in sharing their experiences 

…is encouraged to fill out this brief survey to be eligible to be interviewed!

biandboujeee:

I am seeking participants for a research study on the challenges (biphobia in particular) that bi+ women experience while participating in LGBTQ activism on campus. 

Anyone who… 

  1. identifies as a woman to some degree who also experiences attraction to more than one gender (including but not limited to: bisexual, pansexual, polysexual, queer, fluid),
  2. is a current undergraduate student (or recent graduate) who is (or has been) involved in at least one LGBTQ student organization on campus, 
  3. and is interested in sharing their experiences 

…is encouraged to fill out this brief survey to be eligible to be interviewed!