Category: bisexual

It’s Not A Phase: Bisexual People Know Exactly Who They Are – Connecticut Voice:

The struggle of leaving the closet, coming out and living authentically is one of the biggest challenges anyone LGBTQ can face. Fears of rejection by family and friends, doubts about job security, and the threat of being judged a sinner can nail that door shut for years, even decades…

It’s to be expected that changes in our culture, our state laws, and a remarkable revolution in religious tolerance won’t be universally embraced. But who knew those advances might benefit certain members of our community more than others?

“An ex-girlfriend once exclaimed, ‘I just don’t understand how you can be attracted to men and women,’” says Vickey Allen of Middletown. “Luckily, my response – ‘I don’t understand how you’re only attracted to women’ – clarified it for her.” She was 12 when she first realized that she was bisexual, Allen says. Since then, she says, “I’ve encountered plenty of biphobia” [which] can occur both within and outside the LGBT community”

“I’ve known I’m bisexual all my life,” says Jamie Fernandez of Greater Hartford. “I came out to friends as bisexual and was quickly called ‘greedy,’ told to ‘pick a side’ or asked if I flipped a coin to decide. For many years, I denied part of myself.” Fernandez, 43, is a bisexual transgender woman in a polyamorous relationship … “I didn’t have issues with me being bisexual; others did,” Fernandez says. “And I internalized that and did the same harmful behaviors others do in dismissing the validity of others’ lives.”

That word – “phase” – is perhaps the most common misconception about bisexuality; that either someone cannot choose between being gay or straight or is temporarily caught in between those orientations … “If it is,” says Caleigh Price, 47, “It’s a reeeaaallllyyyy long one…”

“Everything is a phase. Life is a phase,” says Jen Carpenter… “To invalidate anyone’s sexuality based on a time frame is to invalidate life. Nothing is finite, most importantly life. But is that to say that we are not alive just because one day we will not be?”

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I mean, who didn’t try monosexuality in college? But it’s obviously just a phase.

When I finally felt comfortable to tell my wife that I was bi, she came out as bi also. It has made us stronger together.

An appreciation post for all bisexuals that fit some sort of a bi stereotype. Polyamorous? Prefer the opossite gender? Like sex? Wonderful! We’re lucky to have you in the community, and you’re not a “bad bisexual” for staying true to who you are. 

I encourage you to write what stereotype you fit, if you fit any, and let’s celebrate it. (Do this in tags, replies or as a reblog, up to you.)

Just a friendly reminder everyone’s self-discovery journey is different, and one person’s experience doesn’t invalidate another person’s experience.

We’re all different, so our journeys can’t look the same. 

my heart goes out to religious bisexuals- and not just christians. to bi muslims and jewish people. to the hindus and buddhists. whether you’re comfortable with your religion, or struggling with it, it’s so unfair how the lgbt community erases us. being bisexual and religious are not two opposite, conflicting sides. we’re beautiful and we’ve existed for centuries to come, and will do so because existing in a word where we’re told we can’t, is revolutionary 

theadvocatemag:

Today is IDAHOT: International Day Against Homophobia, Transphobia, and Biphobia. Let’s keep up the good fight!

theadvocatemag:

Today is IDAHOT: International Day Against Homophobia, Transphobia, and Biphobia. Let’s keep up the good fight!

Hey, friendly reminder that your attraction to people who aren’t the same gender as you is just as valid as your same gender attraction. You are bi, and that means you’re allowed to be exactly that: bi. You’re still 100% valid and you still belong in the LGBTQ+ community despite not being exclusively attracted to people of the same gender. 

Remember that you’re still a completely valid bi person even if you’re not out of the closet, even if you’re struggling with internalized biphobia, even if you’re still questioning, even if you’re doubting your bisexuality from time to time: you’re all valid, and nothing can keep you from being a part of this community.