another thing that really annoys me about this “bisexuality is binary” thing is that bisexuality absolutely is not and never was binary, except bisexuality is defying a sexual binary because you know, it’s a sexuality
non-binary exists outside the gender binary, outside of male and female
bisexuality exists outside of the sexual binary, outside gay and straight
a lot of the problems that bisexuals and non-binary people face are similar because they share their position on their separate axis, they’re both accused of not being real, being a trend, being temporary or a stepping stone, they’re both erased, fetishised and misunderstood because they’re seen as both/neither/in between the binary options
bisexuality is not only just as subversive as non-binary, it has also always shared a natural alliance with non-binary because they’re parallel to each other
so when you’re accusing bisexuality of being binary you’re missing the whole point because you’re looking at it through the perspective of the wrong axis (gender instead of sexuality)
Does anybody else get, just, really happy when they see other people’s blog icons rocking your Pride flag colors? This website is the only place I can feel safe and comfortable being out and proud with my Pink/Purple/Blue and seeing it so often on other blogs makes me feel, less alone. Like, holy shit dude, there’s so many of us! I just wanna hug every one of my fellow Tumblr Bi’s! ^-^
“Why do you need to use terms like monosexism? Stop being so divisive!”
Translation: Bi people using their own terms to describe their own experiences is divisive and bad. Anything that suggests that bi people’s experiences are different from gay people’s are terrible. Don’t you know that unity involves completely ignoring your own issues if they don’t include us?
This happens a lot. I also heard binary trans people saying this kind of stuff.
Image: Four panel hand drawn colour cartoon; Dramatis personae: light-skinned male-appearing person with short brown hair. They are dressed in a long-sleeved pink top decorated with the Rainbow Pride Flag.
Panel 1: almost in tears with hands clutched to chest “LGBTQIABCXYZ#… – Do we really need all those Labels?!“ Panel 2: one hand on hip gesturing dramatically w the other “Aren’t we all human? Why so we always need to find ways to divide?“ Panel 3: arms raised above head, eye wide, yelling “Society won’t accept us if we keep coming up with new identities other than mine!“ Panel 4: calm arms behind back, serious professorial mien“Even LGBT is a bit complex – We should just say “G” – My identity is simpler, give yours up please.“
Maybe it’s not so much that Bi Guys don’t Come Out. Perhaps it’s more that no one listens when they do. Maybe it’s just that after a while Bi Men stop trying and eventually shut up —
Recalling the eventual conversation in which he [ed note: Mary Austin’s then fiance, the late rock-star Freddie Mercury] told her he was bisexual, she told the Daily Mail in 2013: “I’ll never forget that moment. Being a bit naive, it had taken me a while to realise the truth.”
“Afterwards he felt good about having finally told me he was bisexual,” she added. “Although I do remember saying to him at the time, ‘No Freddie, I don’t think you are bisexual. I think you are gay.’”