Category: Misogyny

bilations:

“Why do you need to use terms like monosexism? Stop being so divisive!”

Translation: Bi people using their own terms to describe their own experiences is divisive and bad. Anything that suggests that bi people’s experiences are different from gay people’s are terrible. Don’t you know that unity involves completely ignoring your own issues if they don’t include us?

assignedmale:

This happens a lot. I also heard binary trans people saying this kind of stuff.

Image: Four panel hand drawn colour cartoon; Dramatis personae: light-skinned male-appearing person with short brown hair. They are dressed in a long-sleeved pink top decorated with the Rainbow Pride Flag.

Panel 1: almost in tears with hands clutched to chest “LGBTQIABCXYZ#… – Do we really need all those Labels?!“
Panel 2: one hand on hip gesturing dramatically w the other “Aren’t we all human? Why so we always need to find ways to divide?“
Panel 3: arms raised above head, eye wide, yelling “Society won’t accept us if we keep coming up with new identities other than mine!“
Panel 4: calm arms behind back, serious professorial mien “Even LGBT is a bit complex – We should just say “G” – My identity is simpler, give yours up please.“

Monosexuals, please stop writing songs about bi people:

As far as I can tell, people who aren’t bi have only even written two types of songs about bi people;

  1. “My partner (usually girlfriends because bi men barely exist in mainstream consciousness) is bi, it’s so hot, we’re gonna have a threesome”
  2. “The person I like/have been flirting with got a boy/girlfriend (which ever would make them in a “straight passing” relationship) instead of being with me, so they must be a fake gay”

Currently, #LiamPayneIsOverParty is trending on Twitter because of the biphobic song on his new album, LP1. “Both Ways” is supposedly a song about Payne’s bisexual girlfriend…

Payne is not the first straight man to use the fetishizesation of bi women as a catchy hook in his music. Other examples include the Weekend’s “Lost in the Fire” & Tinie Tempah’s “Miami to Ibiza”. These songs and the many others like them perpetuate the dangerous stereotype of bi women as hypersexual, sex toys for straight couples, or down for anything…  

Bi people also have to deal with the second type of invalidating songs, often from gay or lesbian artists (I’ve personally come across a lot more from lesbians than gay men). Examples include GRLWood’s “Bisexual”, Hayley Kiyoko’s “Curious”, and Tegan and Sarah’s “Boyfriend”…

All of these songs rely on the biphobic stereotypes that bi women are just straight women looking for a bit of adventure, unwilling to leave their boyfriends, cheaters, and just all-round bad or unreliable partners…

While these songs aren’t as damaging as those written by straight men, mainly because queer artists will never been given as much mainstream attention or clout, they do contribute to the “bad partner” narrative that makes bi people more vulnerable to jealousy-based abuse and to the double discrimination that causes bi people to have worse mental health outcomes than gay men or lesbians…

when female musicians such as Demi Lavato, Rita Ora, or Ariana Grande who have up until now been assumed straight release songs about their multigender attraction, they are often accused of queerbaiting or ‘doing it for attention’ because bi people face a higher burden of proof when it comes to our queer credentials than other members of the LGBT community…

So monosexuals, it’s time to stop writing songs about us. You’ve done a pretty terrible job so far…

Wait what did Liam Payne do

He just released his solo album which includes the song Both Way about dating a bisexual women and how he loves that she’s into threesomes and that her attraction to girls turns him on. Basically the lyrics just fetishize bisexual people and reinforces the harmful stereotype that bi women’s sexuality only exists to gratify male partners. Take a look at the lyrics and you’ll understand better how gross it is

bifeministagenda:The entire concept of “fake college bi girls” or somebody being “bisexual until…