Hi, after growing up thinking I was straight, at 20 I started falling for a girl. We've now been dating for almost a year but I'm still having trouble coming to terms with my sexuality. I love my girlfriend more than anything but I constantly feel like a fraud, it took me so long to start figuring things out, and I'm not sure if have yet, and I still struggle with labelling myself as bi, do you have any advice?
I understand what you’re going through. I’ve also figured out my sexuality kind of late compared to others, especially since you usually hear these stories like “I’ve known since I was in the womb! I came out of the womb holding a pride flag!”. Which, you know, that’s great, but it can make you feel kind of bad for not knowing right away.
And you know what? It’s okay you didn’t know right away. It’s okay it took you some time to figure it out. For most people I know, including myself, we all had this sort of a *moment* that we were like….oh….I like this person of the same gender…well…this is new.
That moment happens at 6 for some, and it happens at 20 for others. Both are equally valid!
And I honestly think if you go back in time and look at some of the things you did as a child, you’ll probably find traces of your sexuality shining through here and there. And don’t freak out even if you don’t, that doesn’t make you a fraud.
TL,DR: It doesn’t matter how long it takes you to figure out your sexuality. We get asks from people in their 40s who have just figured it out, and they’re all equally valid.
I bet you and your gf look cute together! x
Shoutout to all my fellow LGBTQ+ folks that have to deal with their relatives’ homophobia/biphobia/transphobia etc. around the holidays. Hang in there and always remember – People that don’t accept you the way you are don’t matter. Family or not. I’m sending positive vibes your way and I believe you can get through this.
I know this is a bi positivity blog, but this time of year can be hard for everyone. Let’s end this year on a supportive note. Merry christmas and happy holidays!
Bisexuals face a lot of stereotypes every day. We’re told we always cheat on people, we can’t be in a monogamous relationship, we’re told we’re either gay and afraid to come out or straight and trying to be interesting…
Remember your sexuality is valid. No matter how many people try to tell you otherwise. Bisexuality is real, it’s amazing and you should be proud to be bisexual.
Additionaly, if you happen to fit a stereotype, e.g. if you prefer polyamorous reationships, that’s completely okay! It is also okay to identify as bisexual and then realise another labe fits you better.You are who you are and you are wonderful and valid.
Here’s to all the bisexual characters in the media whose sexuality gets erased by people calling them gay or straight.
Here’s to everyone that struggles with their sexuality and has no character to relate to, because writers of today’s media prefer to not use the word bisexual, as if it’s a dirty word.
Here’s to every bisexual character that has been killed off a show or went away because the media couldn’t stand the pressure of having a bisexual character and doing it justice.
And here’s to all my fellow bisexuals: We will get the representation we deserve one day. I promise.
Don’t let people tell you you’re too young to know your sexuality. If you choose to come out at 12,13,14 and get reactions like “You’re too young to know.” or “It’s just a phase.” do not listen to them. Do not let them erase your sexuality. How come straight people are allowed to know from a young age, but queer people aren’t?
Some people figure out their sexuality when they’re older and some know from kindergarten. Whatever the case may be, your sexuality, and you, are valid.
Being bisexual does not make you greedy, a whore or a cheater.
Loving two or more genders does not make you greedy, a whore or a cheater.
You are who you are, you love who you love, and you should be proud of that. Always. Don’t let people shame you for something that is completely natural and normal.
Just a daily reminder you are under no obligation to come out. A lot of people make coming out seem like a huge deal that you have to do, but you don’t. If you’re in an unsafe environment and would put yourself in danger by coming out, if you’re not ready yet and want to wait a while until you do or if you simply don’t feel the need to tell people about your sexuality, you do not have to come out. You’re not required to come out to be a part of the LGBTQ+ community or to be proud of who you are.
Remember being with a partner of the opposite gender does not make you straight and being with a partner of the same gender does not make you gay. You are bisexual, don’t let people erase that.
Hello friends! My name’s Annie and the other mods have been kind enough to select me as a new mod for this blog! I’m very excited and hope I’ll be able to help some of you! Anyway, here’s a bit of info about me so you have an idea of who I am and why you should trust anything I say:
So I’m Annie, as mentioned, I’m 17 and I’m from Slovakia, which is a small country in central Europe. I’m cis, bisexual and prefer she/her pronouns. I’ve struggled to come to terms with my sexuality for 5+ years but am now finally able to say that I am bi and proud. I love rainy days, candles, tea, pasta aand I’m gonna stop naming things now because we’d be here forever if I didn’t..
If you have any questions, feel free to ask me here or on my personal tumblr @simply-a-work-of-art and I hope you’ll be satisfied with what I post!
Stay wonderful. x