Category: monosexism


If your response to the fact that bi women experience more relationship abuse than lesbians is “thats what they get for dating men” i will come to your house and take your kneecaps


“Why do you need to use terms like monosexism? Stop being so divisive!”

Translation: Bi people using their own terms to describe their own experiences is divisive and bad. Anything that suggests that bi people’s experiences are different from gay people’s are terrible. Don’t you know that unity involves completely ignoring your own issues if they don’t include us?


This happens a lot. I also heard binary trans people saying this kind of stuff.

Image: Four panel hand drawn colour cartoon; Dramatis personae: light-skinned male-appearing person with short brown hair. They are dressed in a long-sleeved pink top decorated with the Rainbow Pride Flag.

Panel 1: almost in tears with hands clutched to chest “LGBTQIABCXYZ#… – Do we really need all those Labels?!“
Panel 2: one hand on hip gesturing dramatically w the other “Aren’t we all human? Why so we always need to find ways to divide?“
Panel 3: arms raised above head, eye wide, yelling “Society won’t accept us if we keep coming up with new identities other than mine!“
Panel 4: calm arms behind back, serious professorial mien “Even LGBT is a bit complex – We should just say “G” – My identity is simpler, give yours up please.“

Freddie Mercury: INCREDIBLE thing Queen legend told Mary Austin when he revealed sexuality:

Maybe it’s not so much that Bi Guys don’t Come Out. Perhaps it’s more that no one listens when they do. Maybe it’s just that after a while  Bi Men stop trying and eventually shut up —

Recalling the eventual conversation in which he [ed note: Mary Austin’s then fiance, the late rock-star Freddie Mercury] told her he was bisexual, she told the Daily Mail in 2013: “I’ll never forget that moment. Being a bit naive, it had taken me a while to realise the truth.”

“Afterwards he felt good about having finally told me he was bisexual,” she added. “Although I do remember saying to him at the time, ‘No Freddie, I don’t think you are bisexual. I think you are gay.’”

Monosexuals, please stop writing songs about bi people:

As far as I can tell, people who aren’t bi have only even written two types of songs about bi people;

  1. “My partner (usually girlfriends because bi men barely exist in mainstream consciousness) is bi, it’s so hot, we’re gonna have a threesome”
  2. “The person I like/have been flirting with got a boy/girlfriend (which ever would make them in a “straight passing” relationship) instead of being with me, so they must be a fake gay”

Currently, #LiamPayneIsOverParty is trending on Twitter because of the biphobic song on his new album, LP1. “Both Ways” is supposedly a song about Payne’s bisexual girlfriend…

Payne is not the first straight man to use the fetishizesation of bi women as a catchy hook in his music. Other examples include the Weekend’s “Lost in the Fire” & Tinie Tempah’s “Miami to Ibiza”. These songs and the many others like them perpetuate the dangerous stereotype of bi women as hypersexual, sex toys for straight couples, or down for anything…  

Bi people also have to deal with the second type of invalidating songs, often from gay or lesbian artists (I’ve personally come across a lot more from lesbians than gay men). Examples include GRLWood’s “Bisexual”, Hayley Kiyoko’s “Curious”, and Tegan and Sarah’s “Boyfriend”…

All of these songs rely on the biphobic stereotypes that bi women are just straight women looking for a bit of adventure, unwilling to leave their boyfriends, cheaters, and just all-round bad or unreliable partners…

While these songs aren’t as damaging as those written by straight men, mainly because queer artists will never been given as much mainstream attention or clout, they do contribute to the “bad partner” narrative that makes bi people more vulnerable to jealousy-based abuse and to the double discrimination that causes bi people to have worse mental health outcomes than gay men or lesbians…

when female musicians such as Demi Lavato, Rita Ora, or Ariana Grande who have up until now been assumed straight release songs about their multigender attraction, they are often accused of queerbaiting or ‘doing it for attention’ because bi people face a higher burden of proof when it comes to our queer credentials than other members of the LGBT community…

So monosexuals, it’s time to stop writing songs about us. You’ve done a pretty terrible job so far…


this is so depressing. i saw this linked on another post with the flavor text being “most gay/lesbian people see bisexuals positively now” but actually reading the article it’s like people actually just tolerate our existence. according to this article when people (of every sexuality except bi) were asked to agree/disagree with “bisexual people have the ability to be faithful” 40% of people selected “neither agree nor disagree”. everyone’s real champions of bi rights saying that bisexual stereotypes may or may not be true, who’s to say



anyways unfriendly reminder that bi people exist and just bc u see a “"m/f”“ relationship doesnt mean both ppl are automatically ”“hetties”“ or can have their queer identity revoked just bc u, personally, dont think we’re gay enough based on a 0.5 second glance 🙂

Image: A four cell cartoon, there are three “Characters” consisting of vaguely Human-shaped Blob Creatures with eyes.  To the left there is a slightly larger Blue Creature and a slightly smaller Pink Creature.  Facing them to the right is an in-between size Violet Creature.  The dialogue is in Italian. And the creator is identified as @Enbee.Arlo

Cell 1: [Blue & Pink Creatures looking at the Violet Creature. The Blue Creature asks] “Are you Blue or Pink?”
Cell 2 [The Violet Creature answers] “I am Violet"
Cell 3: [The Pink Creature asks skeptically] “No, but what are you really?”
Cell 4: [The Violet Creature stares silently at them with a bemused & aggravated expression]

Marriage could be good for your health – unless you’re bisexual:


“However, unlike heterosexual and gay or lesbian adults, our study shows that married bisexuals are not healthier than unmarried bisexuals.Interestingly, among bisexuals who are married or cohabiting, those with a same-sex partner are healthier than those with a different-sex partner. Their odds of reporting good health are 2.3 times higher and the rates of functional limitation are 61% lower.

Our findings suggest that bisexuals face unique challenges in their relationships that may reduce the health advantage linked to marriage. A growing number of studies have found that bisexual individuals experience poorer health than heterosexual, gay or lesbian individuals. This includes higher rates of mental disorders, cardiovascular conditions and disability. 

Bisexual people are often perceived by both heterosexual and gay and lesbian people as indecisive about their sexual orientation, sexually permissive, and unfaithful or untrustworthy as romantic partners. For example, an experimental study showed that people more often project such negative stereotypes onto a bisexual man dating a woman than they do onto a heterosexual man dating a woman or a gay man dating a man.

Researchers like ourselves still don’t fully understand the ways in which stigma influences bisexuals’ relationships and health.”


“No labels” rhetoric isolates people from their community, history and culture. It keeps people from being able to articulate themselves and ask for what they need.It promotes a false sense of unity that only serves to further the dominant classes in society. It is a lazy way of getting out of understanding and digesting complex issues.I dislike this rhetoric and approach.