The majority of the asks we receive are people wondering if they are still bi even if they haven’t dated, kissed, had sex with or done anything romantic with more than one gender. So, here’s a reminder that you don’t need any experience at ALL to know you’re bi! =) Your current attractions is what matters!


When I was sixteen I had a crush on my best friend. I didn’t realise it was a crush for years because we’re both girls.

We shared a bed when we had sleepovers and we cuddled when we went to sleep. We snuggled on the couch when we watched movies. We kissed each other on the cheek goodbye. We hugged the moment we saw each other. I always told her she was cute. She was the first person to notice when I changed something about my appearance. Normal best friend stuff, right? Doesn’t everyone think their best friend is the best person in the world? Don’t all girls want to cuddle with their best friends? Don’t all girls get lost scrolling through their friends Facebook pages because they’re just so damn cute? No?

Our parents were so happy we had each other as friends because we were both going through some unrelated shit. None of them ever thought that we were something more. We never had the same rules with each other as we did when we had boys over.

When she got a boyfriend I was insanely jealous. It wasn’t because she didn’t spend time with me anymore, because she would always cancel on him to hang out with me. So I couldn’t place why I was so jealous. So I just ignored it.

Fast forward a few months to them breaking up and her coming out as a lesbian to me. I was happy for her. I was supportive. I was so proud of her for being so brave. I stood up for her when people were arseholes about it.

Fast forward another few months to one of our mutual friends realising she had a crush on me and telling me. I was flattered and it got me thinking. Did I have a crush on her too? It seemed like it, but I knew I liked boys too. I’d had a boyfriend who’d broken my heart. I’d had crushes on boys. I knew that for certain. So why was I thinking this way about my best friend? Could I be bi? No. I’d heard of bisexuality but never anything positive. Bi girls were girls who weren’t brave enough to come out. Bi girls were bi because they wanted to make their boyfriends happy. Bi girls were bi because boys think it’s hot. That wasn’t me. That wasn’t something I was comfortable with. So I must be straight.

My relationship with my best friend stayed the same. We cuddled and hung out and held hands and I felt guilty about it. Especially when rumours about us started spreading. People were saying I was a lesbian too. So we stopped acting that way at school. I wasn’t ashamed, but it wasn’t me. I knew I wasn’t a lesbian.

Eventually I got a boyfriend and she got a girlfriend and we graduated high school and drifted apart.

It wasn’t until years later that I came across the term bisexuality again. In an article I found on tumblr no less. And I read it, a story so similar to mine, about a girl not realising her sexuality for years because there was no bi representation. She didn’t know who she was, except that she liked boys so she must be straight. I thought back to my best friend, realising how much I loved her and that we weren’t just friends. If I was behaving that way with a boy, we would have been in a relationship. I did some research. I practiced saying ‘I’m bi.’ And I finally came to realise that I am. I was 21 when I made the connection of something that I should have when I was in high school.

It all suddenly made sense. Not only my crush on my best friend, but my interest in pretty girls. That when we talked about celebrity ‘hall passes,’ the first ones that came to mind were always girls. It just makes sense.

My point is, this is why we need bi representation in popular culture. This is why characters like Rosa Diaz and Clarke Griffin and Angela Montenegro and Jack Harkness and multiple others are so important. Seeing these characters, this representation, helps people realise that there are other options that aren’t just gay and straight (not that there is anything wrong with either of those). I wish I had seen a character like these when I was a young teenager. I wish I had known being bi was an option and not a negative one. I wish I had seen literally anything positive about being bisexual. I’m not saying my best friend and I would have ended up together, but maybe we could have had something more.

Pictures of Women created by Female Artists using a variety of mostly found, all natural materials. Many of theses are collaborative creations by a duo of artists known as Sister Golden, while others seem to be from different artists. Vicki Rawlins, part of Sister Golden explains some of their creative technique

Nothing taped, nothing glued, just Mother Nature balancing delicately on itself. The actual act of creating each piece, for me, is therapeutic, spending lots of time outside walking and foraging, truly in the moment … There’s a freedom in knowing everything I’m doing is temporary … After I finish the piece, I document it with a photograph … The last step is to recycle it all back into the earth or into my next piece.

Hand-drawn (primarily) black & white image of two female-presenting, goth-punk rocker types.

The person on the left is is wearing a belt-buckle (in colour) that is the Red, Pink, & White Lesbian Pride Flag, and holding a sign that says, “Happy International Women’s’ Day to All My Sisters!!” The person on the right is wearing a round pin (in colour) in the Blue, Pink, and White of the Trans Pride Flag and holding a sign that says, “Not just my Cis-ters”.

Art by Andi


Please, everyone, remember that bisexuality is A HUGE AND IMPORTANT PART OF THE LGBTQ+ COMMUNITY! Being bi is not wrong, it is not dirty, it is not greedy, and it does not cause anyone any harm.

Bisexuality is valid just the way it is.


Image: LGBTQIA+ with each letter done in the colours of their corresponding Pride Flags

Lesbian: six shades of Red & Pink with a White bar in the center
Gay: Red, Orange, Yellow, Green, Blue, & Violet Rainbow Pride Flag
Bisexual+/Bromantic+: Pink, Purple, Blue of the Bi+ Pride Flag
Trans: Blue, Pink, White, Pink,Blue of the Trans Pride Flag
Queer: Purple, White. Green, of the Genderqueer/Non-Binary Flag
Intersex: Yellow w Purple Circle of the Intersex Pride Flag
Asexual: Black, Grey, White, Purple, of the Asexual Pride Flag
+ with a heart in it’s center


Gentle reminder that it is totally okay to not want to be associated with a label; you aren’t bad or less valid for choosing not to use labels. The most important part is to feel comfortable with who you are; and don’t worry: you’re not doing anyone any harm, because how you want to live is your choice, and your choice only! ♥️



Are you 18+ years of age, live in the USA and self-id (even just quietly to yourself) as Bisexual+, Biromantic+ or otherwise a member of the LGBTQAI+ Communities

If yes, please help out some nice Queer Academics who are studying Queer Resilience and Strength in the face of stigma &  by Clicking the above Link and filling out their anonymous survey. Thank you


Here’s a little appreciation post for everyone in this wonderful community! Having a safe okace where you can feel accepted and supported, and finding people who are like you, can really make the biggest difference in people’s lives. You are all super important just by being here and being you! =)

💗💜💙 ¡Feliz #MesDeSaludBi! Las personas Bisexuales+ experimentan mayores disparidades de salud que personas #Gay y #Heterosexuales. Gran parte de la discriminación que enfrenta nuestra comunidad Bisexual+ #Latinx comienza con mitos, estereotipos y mensajes dañinos dentro de nuestras familias. Cambiemos estas narrativas compartiendo mensajes positivos y educando a miembrxs de nuestra familia sobre las personas Bi+.

#SomosBisexuales y Somos Familia. 💗💜💙 #BiHealthMonth

💗💜💙 Happy #BiHealthMonth! #Bisexual+ people experience greater #HealthDisparities than gay and straight people. Much of the discrimination facing our Bi+ Latinx community begins with myths, stereotypes and harmful messages within our families. Let’s change these narratives by sharing positive messages and educating members of our family about bi people +.

We are #Bisexuals and We Are Family. 💗💜💙 #BiHealthMonth